013: Learn How to Stop the Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom Syndrome

“Mom, Mom, Mom, Mom.” Have you ever heard this from your kids? Your kids will get your attention. You decide if it is positive or negative. Listen here for the steps to give positive attention.

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Every kids is an attention seeker. High attention seekers are discouraged kids. Learn how to encourage them and direct them towards positive behavior for positive attention.

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Items from the podcast

  • Every kid is seeking attention.
  • The key question is what kind of attention are they going to get: Positively or negatively attention.
  • Kids look for attention from those above them. Your younger kids look for attention from parents and the other kids. Your oldest kid looks to Mom and Dad for attention.
  • Your children seek attention by answering this question, I only count when I ________________.
  • The highest attention seeking child is usually your youngest child.
  • How to know if they are attention seekers? If what they do annoys you.
  • Attention seeker are discouraged that they can’t get the attention they want.

Parenting Tip/ Pocket Answer

Your child will get your attention. You decide if it is positive or negative.

Resources Mentioned in the Podcast

Birth Order by Dr. Kevin Leman

Parenting Your Powerful Child by Dr. Kevin Leman

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011: What Smart Parents Do to Make Sure Their Kids Love Them

“I want my kids to love me. But I am afraid that if I am too strong they won’t.”

If you have ever had this concern, listen to this episode.
I Love My Mom
Getting your kids to love you is a core concern for every parent. Learn what smart parents do to make sure their kids love them.

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  • Is it loving to doing things for your kids that they could do themselves? No.
  • Is it loving to make excuses for your kids? No.
  • Love means putting the “tennis ball of life” in your kid’s court.
  • Don’t use warnings. Love means letting the consequences of life happen.
  • Warnings are actually disrespectful.
  • Your kids will love you if you do things such as tell the truth, treat them consistently, etc.
  • Make it safe for your kids to fail.

Parenting Tip/ Pocket Answer

Love is keeping the “tennis ball of life” in your kid's court.

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010: Do You Make These Mistakes with Your Stubborn Child?

“No. I won’t!” Have you ever heard that from your kids? Stubbornness is a real issue every parent faces. Want an answer on how to deal with your stubborn kid? Listen to this episode.

Stubborn Girl
Your stubborn kid may not be the loud kid. They might be the quiet and shy kid. Learn how to deal with their stubbornness without having to go to a toe-to-toe power showdown.

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  • Stubborn children are made, not born.
  • Give your stubborn kid an out.
  • Know each of your kids, so you know how to respond.
  • If you back your stubborn kid into a corner, beware that you might lose a finger.
  • Your stubborn kid will challenge you on anything. Why create those challenges?
  • Use the phrase, “Tell me more about it.”
  • Listen to Podcast “B doesn’t happen before A” to learn how to deal with stubborn kids.
  • Your stubborn child can be the shy and quiet kid, not necessarily the yeller.

Parenting Tip/ Pocket Answer

“Tell me more about it.”

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009: Want Your Kids to Help with Dinner and Other House Jobs? Use this Simple Method.

Have you ever left a note asking your kids to help get dinner started before you get home, only to find they did not follow through? Learn a unique way to deal with this from Dr. Kevin Leman.

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What benefit is there to having your kids help around the house? Dr. Leman shares how his kids grew together by working together.

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  • Kids feel no obligation to give back to the family. Despite the fact that the parents are paying for the car, the food, the heat, etc.
  • Kids feel entitled to have their parents do the work for them.
  • We teach kids respect by having them pitch in to help.
  • 70.9% of women with kids under 18 work outside the home, so they are doing double-duty.
  • Parents do far too many things that the kids could do, like vacuum, cook, and even pay bills!
  • You want to instill an attitude that says, “We are all in this together, and so we all need to work.”
  • Working together will actually draw your kids together!

What do you do if your kids didn't follow your instruction to help with dinner?

  1. Don’t rush in and start the meal.
  2. Leave and go somewhere to have a nice leisurely meal.
  3. Don’t nag.
  4. Come home and tell the kids you aren't going to cook tonight. They can cook for themselves tonight.
  5. Say, “I expect you to help around the house. My day is way too long between work and what needs to happen at home. I need your help.”

Parenting Tip/ Pocket Answer

No one member is more or less important than another. We all work together.

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008: Right and Wrong Anger Management Methods–And Little Points that Will Bring Peace to Your Home.

Did you know that your kids use anger to control the people around them? Learn how to help your kids deal with their anger in this episode.

Anger

Anger may be a natural emotion, yet we have seen the devastating effects it can have on the whole family. Teaching your child how to deal with anger will not only help your family, but it also prepares you children for future situations.

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  • Anger is a natural emotion.
  • Anger is a choice. Our kids and us can learn how to deal with it.
  • Kids get angry because life isn’t going their way. This is especially true in kids with perfectionist tendencies.
  • Anger is used to control the other person.
  • The earlier you start, the easier it is for them to learn to deal with anger.

How to help your kid deal with their anger:

  • Help them realize anger is a choice.
  • Anger comes when life doesn’t go our way, and life won’t always go our way.
  • Encourage your kid to talk about the issue in order to release the anger pressure.

In the heat of the moment:

  1. Say, “You seem angry. Now may not be a good time to talk about it, but I really want to hear what is bothering you. I am hear to listen whenever you are ready.”
  2. When they are ready to talk: Listen, listen, listen and listen some more!
  3. A great phrase to use is, “Tell me more about that.” You invite them to share more.
  4. You don’t have to correct their wrong thinking right now. You can do it later. Better they know they are heard.
  5. If someone is in physical danger, you do need to deal with it immediately and bring help into the situation.

Parenting Tip/ Pocket Answer

“Tell me more about that.”

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007: A Proven Way to Defuse a Door Slamming Incident (Hint: Yelling is Not Involved)

Ever experienced this one? Joe stomps off mad as a hornet, grabs his bedroom door, and SLAMS it with the force of a gladiator. Next, Joe’s dad hops off the coach and says some unusual words. Ten seconds later Joe is staring at his dad wondering if he should burst out laughing or hug his dad. Listen to this episode to learn the trick that Joe’s dad used.

Slammed Door

If you are like most parents, when your kids slam the door in anger, you jump up and yell, “That slamming doors is not tolerated in this house!” And we do it at the top of our lungs because we are teaching our children how to calm down. Or are we? This episode is packed with great tips.

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Items from this episode

  • The door slam is an exclamation point demonstration.
  • You can use humor to address a slammed door incident.
  • Pour water to calm it down–not kerosene to fan the flames.
  • A gentle answer turns away wrath.
  • Learn to respond, not react.
  • You don’t have to deal with it now. Later is fine.

How to stay calm during a door slamming:

  • Wait
  • Calm down
  • Say, “In a few minutes I want to talk about this. I might have been wrong.”

Parenting Tip/ Pocket Answer

In a few minutes I want to talk about this. I might have been wrong.

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