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Can you really have a happy family by friday? Dr. Leman shares in this episode the keys that you can do today to change your family.

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We had this super elaborate chore peg board that you flipped the tile over when the kids did their chore. Can you believe the peg board would “accidentally” fall down on a regular basis, right before the we’d review who had done which chores?

Andrea and I have tried various methods to get kids to do chores. We have done chore charts, rewards, excel sheet and none worked.

Using Dr. Leman’s system has been totally different. Why? The responsibility is on the kids. Today’s show will only cover a limited part of his system.

Simply changing the worads you use can change your life.

  • When you kids say something outlandish, we typically say, “NO WAY! That’s a stupid idea. We aren’t doing that.
  • Now say, “Interesting. Tell me more. Sounds Interesting.” Choose one of those.
  • It doesn’t mean you agree with them and will let them do it.

Don’t ask questions

  • Kids don’t want you to ask questions.
  • Say, “Can I get your opinion on this?” Give them an invitation to share.
  • For husbands, “Ask their insights into a problem or issue you are having.” They want to be needed.
  • Your children have a need to engage you and will seek you out for your attention.

You outsource your children

  • When do we outsource our children, we do things like have our 7 year old go to an overnighter.
  • Do what you can to keep them in your home.
  • Don’t over do activities. Why does a 4 year old need to be in dance? She doesn’t. We are training them to be too busy and harried, just like us.
  • Beware of the activity trap in America.

We only have so much time as a family, so we have to choose what we are going to do with that limited time.

Here are desirable qualities for a family

  • Respect reigns
  • Communication flows
  • Home is predictable
  • Everyone gives back to the family
  • Communicate in truth
  • Solve problems together
  • Honesty
  • Parents are there for the kids
  • Have fun
  • We expect the best of each other.

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Parenting Tip/ Pocket Answer

Don’t ask questions

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