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Have you ever wondered what to do if your daughter wanted to have her boyfriend over and you knew they would be sharing a bed? What is the right way to react? Dr. Leman answers this question on today’s episode.

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Question #1 Nick:

Dr. Leman, what would you say to having your 26 year old daughter and her live-in boyfriend come for an overnight visit at our summer cottage where they would plan to sleep together? I don’t think it is right, but my wife thinks it is okay.

Dr. Leman’s Answer:

Many of you will be surprised by my answer to this question!

This is a new day. Millennials don’t bat an eye at living together–even those who go to church and are part of weekly Bible Studies.
They see living together as the heaviest form of dating.

Now, to answer the question:
You have a choice.

She knows how you feel already about their arrangement.

To keep your relationship intact, it is time to extend grace.

Here is the question you have to ask yourself: “Do I want to insure my relationship with my daughter?” Once you make the call to tell her where she and her boyfriend are going to sleep (they are adults), you are done with that relationship. On the other hand, by embracing her and her boyfriend, telling them they are free to come, free to be together, free to sleep anywhere, you are keeping your relationship intact for the future.

I am not saying that I agree with people choosing to live together before they are married, but I am saying that relationship is of utmost importance.