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Ever experienced this one? Joe stomps off mad as a hornet, grabs his bedroom door, and SLAMS it with the force of a gladiator. Next, Joe’s dad hops off the coach and says some unusual words. Ten seconds later Joe is staring at his dad wondering if he should burst out laughing or hug his dad. Listen to this episode to learn the trick that Joe’s dad used.

If you are like most parents, when your kids slam the door in anger, you jump up and yell, “That slamming doors is not tolerated in this house!” And we do it at the top of our lungs because we are teaching our children how to calm down. Or are we? This episode is packed with great tips.


Items from this episode

  • The door slam is an exclamation point demonstration.
  • You can use humor to address a slammed door incident.
  • Pour water to calm it down–not kerosene to fan the flames.
  • A gentle answer turns away wrath.
  • Learn to respond, not react.
  • You don’t have to deal with it now. Later is fine.

How to stay calm during a door slamming:

  • Wait
  • Calm down
  • Say, “In a few minutes I want to talk about this. I might have been wrong.”

Parenting Tip/ Pocket Answer

In a few minutes I want to talk about this. I might have been wrong.


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Question: Which one would you like to use next time with your door slammer: “Does this mean you no longer like living in this 4 bedroom home with free wifi and more?” or “Does this mean you would like me to leave and never come back?” or “In a few minutes, I want to talk about this. I might have been wrong.”?