Why does my spouse revert to being a child when we go to his parents house? It bugs me that they aren’t the same person in our home. What can I do about it.
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When we go home to our parent’s house for the holidays, my spouse reverts to a different person, more like a kid than an adult.
Going home to your parent’s home sets the stage to go back to earlier learned behavior because even adult children want to please their parents.
Here are some tips to follow:
1. Always allow your spouse to make the calls in their own parent’s home. You be there to support them.
2. Prepare yourself for the “96 hours” that you will be with the in-laws.
3. Consider staying elsewhere, like a hotel.
4. Remember that over time you will develop different roles.
5. If you want to make a change in the way you celebrate the holidays, you must BOTH agree on the change.
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